My Therapy Tips, Tools & Insights
Newcastle NSW AustraliaWelcome to my relationship and therapy blog — a space where I share evidence-based tools, intuitive insights, and deep reflections on emotional wellbeing, couples therapy and personal transformation.
You’ll find articles covering a wide range of therapy tips rooted in my experience as a practitioner in marriage counselling, couples therapy, and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing). Whether you’re navigating relationship struggles, emotional blocks, or inner healing, these writings are here to support your journey.
My posts draw on the latest research in neuroscience, psychology, and trauma-informed therapy, as well as insights gathered from decades of direct client work. I also include book recommendations, guided tools, and practical techniques that help shift long-held patterns and create space for lasting change.
I’m especially passionate about:
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Breaking subconscious conditioning and generational beliefs
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Exploring how neurobiology and mood states impact love and attachment
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Helping individuals and couples shift their vibrational frequency by releasing emotional blocks and negative thought patterns
My writing encourages self-inquiry, emotional mastery, and conscious relationships. I believe that when we understand the root of our reactions — especially within intimate partnerships — we unlock the power to rewire our inner world and reimagine our connections.
If you’re seeking deeper connection, self-awareness, or support through relationship challenges, I hope these articles offer insight and inspiration. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or healing from heartbreak, there’s something here for anyone wanting to grow. For more about my approach go to my couples or individuals pages.
Is it Reactive Abuse or Mutual Abuse?
The term “Mutual Abuse has been highlighted in the media recently with the Johhny Depp vs Amber Heard defamation trial following their couple’s counsellor’s testimony describing their relationship dynamic. I tend to disagree with the use of the term “mutual abuse”,...
The Benefits of Alpha Meditation
Alpha meditation is a practice that aims to induce a state of brainwave activity known as the alpha state. Alpha waves are neural oscillations that occur in the frequency range of 8 to 12 Hz and are associated with relaxed and calm mental states. During alpha...
5 Communication Strategies for Stronger Couple Connection
Communication issues can arise in any relationship, but they can be particularly challenging in a romantic partnership. Here are some common couple communication issues and strategies to address them: 1.Poor listening: Many communication problems stem from not...
Relationship Boredom
When you have been in a relationship for a long time it may begin to feel a bit stale. You and your partner may find yourself not putting in much effort until one day you wake up and you no longer feel connected at all.
Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn
Most of us are familiar with the common fight or flight responses we experience when we are distressed but when it comes to trauma responses Freeze and Fawn are are also other coping mechanisms. Sometimes these responses develop into PTSD symptoms if not processed and desensitised effectively.
The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) Questionnaire: A Protocol of EMDR
The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) Questionnaire is clinical resource for measuring childhood trauma. The ACE scale determines risk factors that lead to social wellbeing and health later in life. According to the ACE study adverse events in childhood directly...
How Does Intrinsic and Extrinsic Motivation Effect You?
There is one good reason why you may not be motivated to reach a certain goal or procrastinate when it comes to achieving a particular task. This can be explained by understanding the difference between your extrinsic and intrinsic motivation.
Four Types of Betrayal in a Relationship
Trust is the glue that will predict the quality and longevity of a relationship. When trust is broken in the relationship it can be hard to repair and may potentially lead to separation or divorce. There are different forms of betrayal that can damage a relationship.
Four Reasons Why You Stay in a Toxic Relationship
If your relationship has continued to become toxic over time without any evidence of improvement, then it is time to start asking yourself some tough questions.