My Therapy Tips, Tools & Insights
Newcastle NSW AustraliaWelcome to my relationship and therapy blog — a space where I share evidence-based tools, intuitive insights, and deep reflections on emotional wellbeing, couples therapy and personal transformation.
You’ll find articles covering a wide range of therapy tips rooted in my experience as a practitioner in marriage counselling, couples therapy, and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing). Whether you’re navigating relationship struggles, emotional blocks, or inner healing, these writings are here to support your journey.
My posts draw on the latest research in neuroscience, psychology, and trauma-informed therapy, as well as insights gathered from decades of direct client work. I also include book recommendations, guided tools, and practical techniques that help shift long-held patterns and create space for lasting change.
I’m especially passionate about:
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Breaking subconscious conditioning and generational beliefs
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Exploring how neurobiology and mood states impact love and attachment
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Helping individuals and couples shift their vibrational frequency by releasing emotional blocks and negative thought patterns
My writing encourages self-inquiry, emotional mastery, and conscious relationships. I believe that when we understand the root of our reactions — especially within intimate partnerships — we unlock the power to rewire our inner world and reimagine our connections.
If you’re seeking deeper connection, self-awareness, or support through relationship challenges, I hope these articles offer insight and inspiration. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or healing from heartbreak, there’s something here for anyone wanting to grow. For more about my approach go to my couples or individuals pages.
Four Reasons Why You Stay in a Toxic Relationship
If your relationship has continued to become toxic over time without any evidence of improvement, then it is time to start asking yourself some tough questions.
The 7 Most Common Causes of Infidelity
Infidelity is considered a very emotionally painful form of betrayal for the victim so much so that it was once considered a criminal offence. There is a variety of reasons for infidelity that lead a couple to therapy which may not be easily understood initially.
EMDR as a Treatment for Emotional Eating
Anyone who is an emotional eater or has an eating disorder knows how difficult it can be to change their eating patterns. Talk therapy, exercise and diet plans may work to some extent. If you are an emotional eater or have a diagnosed eating disorder and are still struggling Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy may help transform your relationship with food and your relationship with self for good.
Five Ways to Increase Emotional Intelligence in Your Relationship
Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is a defining factor for any couple that will measure the overall success of the relationship. A certain level of Emotional Intelligence is required for a couple to stay connected and will determine the quality and longevity of the relationship.
We can always improve on our Emotional Intelligence by adopting certain goals and implementing approaches with our beloved. Here are five ways to increase the emotional intelligence in your relationship.
From Post Traumatic Stress Disorder to Post Traumatic Growth
Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG) refers to the positive psychological change that can occur after struggling with highly challenging life circumstances or trauma. While many associate trauma with symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), it’s also possible to...
Is Depression Killing Your Relationship?
Many couples I see come in for couple therapy complaining of boredom, a drop in sex drive and increased conflict. In the first session it can usually be identified if one partner is experiencing symptoms of depression. The Gottman Relationship Check-up makes this easier as it screens for symptoms of depression, anxiety or suicidal ideation if a couple chooses to take part in this.
The Trauma of Dealing With An Emotionally Immature Parent
Understanding the Impact of Emotionally Immature Parents If you had one or more parents who were often rejecting, distant, or self-centred, you may have experienced anger, low self-esteem, and difficulty making healthy decisions at different points in your life. This...
The Science of Couple Therapy – One Day or Two Relationship Intensives.
Marriage is much harder than it used to be due to our increased expectations and the way the world is changing. One reason is that women are more self-sufficient than ever before and though they still don’t have complete equality in the workplace they are less willing to stay in an unhappy marriage.
The Science Behind EMDR
Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) is the best evidence-based treatments for post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) endorsed by medical associations around the world.