My Therapy Tips, Tools & Insights

Newcastle NSW Australia

 

Welcome to my relationship and therapy blog — a space where I share evidence-based tools, intuitive insights, and deep reflections on emotional wellbeing, couples therapy and personal transformation.

You’ll find articles covering a wide range of therapy tips rooted in my experience as a practitioner in marriage counselling, couples therapy, and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing). Whether you’re navigating relationship struggles, emotional blocks, or inner healing, these writings are here to support your journey.

My posts draw on the latest research in neuroscience, psychology, and trauma-informed therapy, as well as insights gathered from decades of direct client work. I also include book recommendations, guided tools, and practical techniques that help shift long-held patterns and create space for lasting change.

I’m especially passionate about:

  • Breaking subconscious conditioning and generational beliefs

  • Exploring how neurobiology and mood states impact love and attachment

  • Helping individuals and couples shift their vibrational frequency by releasing emotional blocks and negative thought patterns

My writing encourages self-inquiry, emotional mastery, and conscious relationships. I believe that when we understand the root of our reactions — especially within intimate partnerships — we unlock the power to rewire our inner world and reimagine our connections.

If you’re seeking deeper connection, self-awareness, or support through relationship challenges, I hope these articles offer insight and inspiration. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or healing from heartbreak, there’s something here for anyone wanting to grow. For more about my approach go to my couples or individuals pages.

Should I Stay or Go?: Making the Hardest Decision in a Relationship

Should I Stay or Go?: Making the Hardest Decision in a Relationship

Facing the Relationship Dilemma No one enters a relationship intending for it to end but very often we are left in a position to ponder the question; should I stay or should I go? We often believe that love alone can weather any storm. However, there comes a time when...

Anger Management: How EMDR Calms the HPA Axis and Transforms Emotional Reactions

Anger Management: How EMDR Calms the HPA Axis and Transforms Emotional Reactions

Anger can sometimes feel uncontrollable, as if it arises from nowhere before any rational thought. 

While most traditional anger management strategies focus on behavioral techniques like deep breathing or cognitive reframing, they usually do not fully address the root cause. It is past trauma or stress that produces a dysregulated HPA axis (hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis).

7 Reasons for Divorce in Australia:

7 Reasons for Divorce in Australia:

One Third of Australian Marriages End in Divorce Divorce is a significant life event that affects millions of people worldwide but let's discuss the top seven reasons for divorce in Australia. Current statistics reveal that approximately 33% of all Australian...

Relationship Depression: How to Break Free For Good

Relationship Depression: How to Break Free For Good

There are highs and lows that come with any relationship. A couple will tend to suffer over time if there are more lows than highs experiencing a relationship depression.  The connection feels may become strained and distant, with each partner feeling isolated and...

What is The Halo Effect?

What is The Halo Effect?

In the realm of relationships, the halo effect is a formidable player. Consider the allure of new romance. When infatuated, we often see our partner as an embodiment of perfection. Consider relationships: during the honeymoon phase, the halo effect makes partners seem...

5 Simple Steps to Enhance Intimacy in Your Relationship

5 Simple Steps to Enhance Intimacy in Your Relationship

Intimacy is an essential ingredient for a strong and healthy relationship. It goes beyond physical affection to include emotional connection, good communication, and a sense of togetherness. Here are my five ways to increase intimacy in your everyday interactions with your partner.

Relationship Coaching; The Impact of Words

Relationship Coaching; The Impact of Words

Relationship Coaching; The Impact of Words How often do we consider the energy and impact of our words?  Words possess immense power; they shape our interactions and influence our relationships profoundly and there is much data and scientific evidence to support this....