For those of you finding it difficult to get past the painful feeling of betrayal caused by infidelity Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy could be just the answer you are looking for.
Infidelity is a classified as a trauma and EMDR is the best evidence based Trauma treatment to date as endorsed by the World Health Organisation. EMDR is not only powerful for healing war-veteran with symptoms of PTSD and victims of sexual abuse but is gaining popularity as a highly effective treatment for resolving the suburban traumas experienced in a romantic relationship.
Betrayal trauma can often be one of the more difficult traumas to resolve as you are in constant contact with the loved one who has betrayed you and are therefore constantly triggered. Most often repeatedly talking about the trauma only reignites the memories related to the affair for the person who is betrayed. The fight or flight response in the betrayed person causes a heightened state of anxiety and hyper-vigilance in their daily life.
Symptoms often manifest as anger, guilt, depression, resentment, low self-esteem, nightmares, flashbacks, obsessive thoughts and doubt about one’s ability to love again.
Often there is a deep sense of loss as a result of the infidelity that can last for years to come.
For others the option to leave the relationship becomes more and more a reality due to their inability to process and detach from the painful memories. These painful feelings are often lodged in the subconscious which may be carried with us into the next relationship.
If your partner has cheated on you EMDR can help you to process and resolve distressing emotions relating to the infidelity. I am able to help the betrayed partner process the pain of affair so that forgiveness is possible. EMDR can help to heal the hurts and repair the relationship at a faster rate than talk-therapy alone.
EMDR is an Intensive trauma-focused therapy that can enable the painful memories attached to the trauma in a matter of days giving the couple the best chance of repairing their relationship.
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