My Therapy Tips, Tools & Insights

Newcastle NSW Australia

 

Welcome to my relationship and therapy blog — a space where I share evidence-based tools, intuitive insights, and deep reflections on emotional wellbeing, couples therapy and personal transformation.

You’ll find articles covering a wide range of therapy tips rooted in my experience as a practitioner in marriage counselling, couples therapy, and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing). Whether you’re navigating relationship struggles, emotional blocks, or inner healing, these writings are here to support your journey.

My posts draw on the latest research in neuroscience, psychology, and trauma-informed therapy, as well as insights gathered from decades of direct client work. I also include book recommendations, guided tools, and practical techniques that help shift long-held patterns and create space for lasting change.

I’m especially passionate about:

  • Breaking subconscious conditioning and generational beliefs

  • Exploring how neurobiology and mood states impact love and attachment

  • Helping individuals and couples shift their vibrational frequency by releasing emotional blocks and negative thought patterns

My writing encourages self-inquiry, emotional mastery, and conscious relationships. I believe that when we understand the root of our reactions — especially within intimate partnerships — we unlock the power to rewire our inner world and reimagine our connections.

If you’re seeking deeper connection, self-awareness, or support through relationship challenges, I hope these articles offer insight and inspiration. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or healing from heartbreak, there’s something here for anyone wanting to grow. For more about my approach go to my couples or individuals pages.

How Toxic Masculine and Feminine Traits Harm Relationships

How Toxic Masculine and Feminine Traits Harm Relationships

Toxic masculine and feminine traits, often learned through cultural and societal conditioning, can gradually erode the emotional connection in all types of personal relationships. These maladaptive behaviours, reinforced by rigid gender roles and societal...

How Your Attachment Style Runs Your Relationship

How Your Attachment Style Runs Your Relationship

Our early experiences of bonding with caregivers create powerful imprints on how we connect with others in adulthood. Attachment styles are responsible for emotional patterns and communication within romantic relationships. Understanding ones own attachment style—and...

The Three Best Ways to Recover from Betrayal Trauma

The Three Best Ways to Recover from Betrayal Trauma

Betrayal trauma is one of the most devastating human experiences. When a partner breaches any form of trust it can  and leave deep emotional scars. Recovering from such trauma may not be possible by time alone.  Intentional,...

Should I Stay or Go?: Making the Hardest Decision in a Relationship

Should I Stay or Go?: Making the Hardest Decision in a Relationship

Facing the Relationship Dilemma No one enters a relationship intending for it to end but very often we are left in a position to ponder the question; should I stay or should I go? We often believe that love alone can weather any storm. However, there comes a time when...

The Four Attachment Styles; Which One Are You?

The Four Attachment Styles; Which One Are You?

Our human connections can be catergorised by our various attachment styles, shaping the way we form and navigate relationships throughout our lives. From the cradle to adulthood, our early experiences profoundly influence how we bond with others. Equally, the...

Anger Management: How EMDR Calms the HPA Axis and Transforms Emotional Reactions

Anger Management: How EMDR Calms the HPA Axis and Transforms Emotional Reactions

Anger can sometimes feel uncontrollable, as if it arises from nowhere before any rational thought. 

While most traditional anger management strategies focus on behavioral techniques like deep breathing or cognitive reframing, they usually do not fully address the root cause. It is past trauma or stress that produces a dysregulated HPA axis (hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis).